THE GOAL OF
THE HOLIDAY FRIEND SYSTEM
The holiday friends are our partners in the education and care of the child and we put a lot of trust in these families to model as a healthy functioning family. Our children should learn to how to be part of such a family, how to be part of normal family interaction and should experience family bonding, family fun, constructive family conflict and the showing and receiving of love and care.
Holiday friends should provide the following:
- Healthy norms and values
- Stable and nurturing family environment – if a couple is not married there should be a relationship of a permanent
value (sharing of same household and other responsibilities)
- Not a need or desire for a child of their own
- Not a need or desire for a playmate for their children
- A need and urge to render a service to a child
- Ability to give the child acceptance and approval
- Willingness and ability to cope with a child that is probably traumatized
- Do not have habits that is detrimental to the child’s development, like the misuse of substances
- Do not have a criminal record or was not involved in an incident where sexual abuse of children was alleged
- Mature, stable, freedom from emotional problems
- Should give fair and consistent attention and discipline
- Able to stimulate children to develop wholesome attitudes and desirable social habits
- Able to work as a team member with the social worker, house parent and own family of child
- Self-discipline and self-motivation with healthy self-confidence.
- No discrimination on grounds of a person’s religious beliefs, sexual orientation and marital status will be imposed.
- It is however important that children be placed as far as possible with people with healthy, Christian norms.
- A trustworthy reference of the applicants will have to describe their values and whether his/her family life is of a
healthy and stable environment.
The following should be taken into account:
- The preference of the holiday friends regarding age
- The willingness and ability of holiday friends to cope
with specific behaviour or other problems of the child.
- The position of the holiday friends’ own children
- The religious upbringing of the child and whether the
child will benefit from the religious beliefs of the
- The needs of the specific child (whether the child
needs a family or an adult mentor).
The rights of the individual can be limited here in order to assure the best interest of the child.
- Applicants should fill out an application form obtained from the social worker.
- The social worker will contact the applicants for an interview and where further procedures and details will be explained